No, it's *not* shallow to know what you consider attractive. If you meet someone who is a great match for you, but you refuse to go out with them because they sometimes wear skirts, then *that* might be seen as shallow... but that's not what you're saying here, I don't think. You're looking at what you consider an ideal, and it's always good to have an ideal in mind as long as you're not slavishly devoted to the ideal.
As has already been said, it's not at all unusual to know your "type", and then fall for someone who's completely different. That doesn't mean that it's a bad thing to know (and talk about) what your type is.
Oh, and, just because all the other guys seem to be mentioning it... I dunno how tall you are in platforms, but /me is scrawny build, no piercings, no facial hair, sometimes-skirt-wearing (not to mention almost half again your age).... ah well. I guess the thousands-of-miles-distance thing could be an deal-breaker, anyhow. ;)
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Date: 2002-08-05 10:57 am (UTC)No, it's *not* shallow to know what you consider attractive. If you meet someone who is a great match for you, but you refuse to go out with them because they sometimes wear skirts, then *that* might be seen as shallow... but that's not what you're saying here, I don't think. You're looking at what you consider an ideal, and it's always good to have an ideal in mind as long as you're not slavishly devoted to the ideal.
As has already been said, it's not at all unusual to know your "type", and then fall for someone who's completely different. That doesn't mean that it's a bad thing to know (and talk about) what your type is.
Oh, and, just because all the other guys seem to be mentioning it... I dunno how tall you are in platforms, but /me is scrawny build, no piercings, no facial hair, sometimes-skirt-wearing (not to mention almost half again your age).... ah well. I guess the thousands-of-miles-distance thing could be an deal-breaker, anyhow. ;)